Scoot: Advice to men:  “Don’t take IT out!”

November 30, 2017 - 11:01 am

A day after he was fired as the highly-acclaimed host of the “Today’s Show” by NBC, Matt Lauer has issued an apology that was read by co-host Savannah Guthrie:


"There are no words to express my sorrow and regret for the pain I have caused others by words and actions. To the people I have hurt, I am truly sorry. As I am writing this I realize the depth of the damage and disappointment I have left behind at home and at NBC.”

"Some of what is being said about me is untrue or mischaracterized, but there is enough truth in these stories to make me feel embarrassed and ashamed. I regret that my shame is now shared by the people I cherish dearly.

"Repairing the damage will take a lot of time and soul searching and I'm committed to beginning that effort. It is now my full time job," he added. "The last two days have forced me to take a very hard look at my own troubling flaws. It's been humbling. I am blessed to be surrounded by the people I love. I thank them for their patience and grace."

Matt Lauer, Garrison Keillor, Senator Al Franken, Congressman John Conyers, Candidate Roy Moore, C.K. Louis, Harvey Weinstein, Bill O’Reilly, Roger Ailes, Bill Cosby, John Besh, Russell Simmons, and President Donald Trump are just part of a list of men accused of sexual harassment that continues to grow almost daily.  What do these men, and others, have in common?

The information about the allegations of sexual harassment provides a view into the collective psyche of men who are accused of being the perpetrators.  The common denominator appears to be the belief that woman view sex the way men view sex.  Some women do treat sex with men the way men treat sex with women, but that is not the norm.  Men who sexually harass or sexually assault women seem to think that if they would like a woman to do this to them, then women would appreciate the gesture.  There may also be a sense that it is a man’s view of his own self that encourages the thought that any woman would want me to make a sexual advance to her.

Guys – the bottom line is this: the average woman does not want to see “yours” and much as you want to see “hers.”  This basic reality should clear up a lot of confusion about sexual harassment.

And here’s important advice for every man:  Don’t take “it” out!  Unless someone puts in a request to see “it” - don’t take “it” out.  If you are in a heated intimate moment and the obvious next step is to take “it” out, then you’re probably okay.  But still better is the idea that you let her take “it” out so you are sure it’s her idea.

As socially evolved as we are as a species, there still seems to be a grave misunderstanding about the primal reality that, in general, men and women view sex and sexual gestures differently.

If we learn anything from 2017, let it be this simple thought: Don’t take “it” out!

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